Ritual Destructing Techniques

[1dave]

The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

Rituals - Habits - Some Good, Some Bad - We unknowingly build them all the time.

Perhaps you have encountered the expression "Mind the Healer, Mind the Destroyer."
Good thoughts help. Bad thoughts hinder.

We learn to move our limbs, then how to roll over, how to crawl, how to walk and run, then never think of them again. The programs and sub-routines our subconscious has built in our mind run them without us having to think "move this or you will lose your balance." Even a lot of talking. it all happens automatically.

Playing baseball, golfing, Riding a bicycle, driving a car, all good things.

1. In 1955 I went to BYU with $450 in my pocket. Who could possibly need any more?

Me, that's who!

I got a job working for the BYU Physical Plant - tearing apart and repairing leaking steam radiators for $1.00/Hr.



When we had them all repaired and installed for the coming semester I was sent into the steam tunnels under campus with another guy to replace the deteriorating insulation on the steam lines.
We had a 5 gallon bucket, a bag of rock wool, a roll of muslin, water, paste, and a pointed trowel.
All went well as we built a rhythm of: pull out a hand full of wet rock wool, pat it in place where some had fallen out, trowel it smooth, toss the trowel back into the bucket, then paste on the muslin.
After several weeks I tossed the trowel back into the bucket BUT the other guy for some unknown reason had just stuck his hand back into the bucket and the trowel stabbed into the back of his hand.

Bad Memory!

Years later it would intrude at inopportune moments, that trowel, bucket, hand, BAD EMOTIONS!.
Unknowingly I began building a physical ritual to turn that memory off.
I jerked my head back away from the memory and it went away. Success - for a while.
Then it wasn't enough. The memory was still there. I jerked my head, clinched my fist and shook it.
The memory was gone - for a while.
Soon I added a verbalization - "DAMN!" as the "Turn that Damned Memory OFF" ritual became longer and longer.

Then one day my wife noticed part of the ritual and asked "What's wrong?"

"Nothing." I knew exactly what was wrong, but not what to do about it.
Luckily I found Susan Jeffers book:

All I had to do was allow the memory, acknowledge it -"Yes, that happened. I'm sorry, and it will never happen again."
Over a short time the emotional content faded away, and the memory became non-toxic.
The Solution was short and sweet!
Too bad I wasted a lot of time and emotions because I didn't know what to do years earlier!


2. After years of working with doctors, psychologists, psychiatrists, all to no avail, I took one of my children to a hypnotherapist. Within 15 minutes he uncovered that as a small child she had been repeatedly raped by a trusted neighbor. Her job was to make sure we never found out or he would kill us. She had developed multiple personalities in attempts to protect herself. THAT IS WHY I HATE SEX OFFENDERS!

I became a certified clinical hypnotherapist and learned many ways of deconstructing phobias and other self hating problems. Look at a situation from a different viewpoint. Reframe the meaning of what happened.

A woman came to my office stating she was going crazy and I was her last hope before she committed herself to an asylum. She had almost no memory's of her early school years. The day after graduating high school she was placed in a hospital for almost a year. Now married, she had just caught herself about to harm her first baby.

"There is a feeling you have about yourself. That feeling. Is it in your head, throat, chest, stomach? Place your hand where you have that feeling. Good. Now go back to the very first time you felt that feeling. That very firs time, Is it daylight or dark? Are you inside or out? Are you alone or is someone with you? What is happening?"

Her father started raping her when she started school, stopped when she entered junior high, then raped her again when she graduated high school. After the last rape he went out to their pig shed to feed them.

She was so angry she git a butcher knife and followed him into the shed to kill him. In her rage she bumped into a pig, and screaming, she stabbed it over and over until she fainted.

She woke up the next morning in her bed. All had been cleaned up and was never talked about again - but she couldn't function and was taken to hospital. She thought she was going to hell for murdering that innocent pig and had developed a sub-personality (David) who tried to harm her child.

I helped her reframe what had happened.
"You were in an impossible situation. You couldn't allow your father to continue what he was doing. If you killed him you would end up in prison. If you called the police, your father would go to prison and your family would lose his financial support. Your magnificent subconscious mind found the only solution. The pig was going to be slaughtered anyway. By killing it the way you did, your father was forced to realize how terrible his actions were and stopped him. All of it was his fault. None of it was yours."

She stopped by a year later to thank me. i asked how David was doing? "Oh, I sent him on a mission and he's not coming back."

It is well worth our time to learn how the mind works.

3. About a year into my practice I saw an add - "5 minute phobia cure. Video $45"

I sent for it and easily figured out how it worked. It was simple to do! ( I rejected Dr. Callahan's following offer to train me how to use equipment hooked to the phone and charge $1,000/patient for only $50,000 - easily recouped! )

In the 1990's a myriad of variations sprang into use and they all worked! Finger tapping in various areas - around the eyes, on body meridians,  rapid eye movements, mentally exciting various mind centers (counting, Imagining, visualizing, singing), - and they all worked. (What would a two legged giraffe playing a trombone look like?)

HOW? Reverse how Habits are formed.

Something bad happens. The subconscious searches for a solution in Memory, Imagination, and Emotion.

"Anything like this ever happen before? What did I do?"
"What else could I do about it?"
"What emotions would best help?"

A part of the mind is tasked with finding a better solution while whatever response is arrived at is used over and over until a better solution appears. That is why we see people sometimes reacting as little children.

How a Habit is Created:
Stimulus > Memory > Imagination > Emotion > Response.
Over time it dwindles down to A HABIT. Stimulus/Instant Learned Response!

Those learned responses can become extremely devastating. Self defeating thought patterns, headaches, breathing problems, posture problems, joint problems, skin problems, blood flow problems . . . All of which lead to other health problems.

ALL of the above help techniques try to place a wedge between the stimulus and response to provide mental room so a new response can be found and activated. Often they are amazingly quickly solved.
The toughest to solve is if there is an internal saboteur - a part of the mind that feels the need to be punished.
That requires a lot more work.

That is it in a nutshell. Find a NEW BETTER RESPONSE!

And life becomes much improved.

EFT
www.emofree.com/eft-tutorial/tapping-basics/how-to-do-eft.html

But this can be done in any order, even using other locations. People are different and having them count or sing a simple song, eye movements, or . . . whatever may be a better fit for them.



Somehow eye movement connects to various mind centers. As you talk to people, notice how their eyes move.
We all do things in our unique ways, but people usually tend to look up - right, center, or left, into memory or imagination, look down into emotion. This is one of the keys interrogators use to check if people are lying.

Hold a wand or your finger about a foot in front of a person's eyes and ask them to follow it as you move it back and forth, in a circle, and in the infinity loop.
There will be places where the eyes jerk away, then come back to the wand.
Some claim those jerks are memory locations the individual doesn't want to see. True or false, those are the locations Rapid Eye Therapists use to heal people with statements like "Blink it out, blink it out."



This compacted information has been a boon to me and people I have worked with.  I hope it is a help to you.

[1dave]

What manner of beings are we?

What and Where is Mind? How is Mind different from brains? From Self?

I have spent a lot of time thinking about this - Read every book I could find about brains, mind, and Multiple Personality Response to abuse. The Minds of Billy Milligan is very revealing.

We think of ourselves as individuals . . . But in reality we are an extremely complex collection of BRAINS!
The brains in our heads are just a small part of our collection.

Don't take what I'm writing to think I don't believe in God. Without Him there isn't a single chance that we would be here on this planet at this unique moment in space/time.
"God works in mysterious ways ways His wonders to perform."

Our DNA still contains the gift of our First Brain that came into being Around 600,000 years ago, and is still in use by us.
As simple as it is, it is connected to every part of our being.
It still reacts to threats. It knows fear through pain, and need through hunger.

As physical bodies became more complex, our DNA added the Blood Brain - Amazingly Complicated!The blood brain and it's activities is a library in itself!

It also added the Reticular Network that controls Sleeping, Waking, Heart, Gills, and finally Lungs,

The Gut Brain soon joined it, a marvelous structure - sorting out incoming material, selecting what we need and sending it where it is needed, disposing of waste, spewing out toxins.

Somewhere along there the Sympathetic and Parasympathetic Nervous Systems became operational.

As Body Limbs developed with their Individual Brain Ganglia Structures to operate them.

The Reptilian Brain, Base, or Hind Brain, powerfully took over additional control of those individual Brains. Activated in danger, unremembered power blasts from here. THIS is what keeps us moving and alive even when we have been knocked unconscious!



The Mammalian Brain, or Mid brain added Smell and Emotion to our decision making processes.

Finally (at least at our present situation) the Great Human Brain has been added with it's right and left hemispheres usually one side is reserved for logic Analytical (mathematical thinking), the other for imagination (visual thinking).

Then we each develop "SELF."

As children, we build “tapes” in our minds to guide us in our future lives about what behavior is acceptable and what is not. Belief Systems - We refer to them as “our Conscience.” In Hypnosis jargon this is referred to as “The Critical Faculty,” that judgmental part of ourselves where our values and belief systems are stored. In life we don’t have time to run through every step again and again to make a decision. We hop to the final conclusion and ZOWIE! Right or wrong, there is our response.

When we begin to recognize that something is no longer working, reluctantly we begin building a new belief system, but all that old stuff (Don’t pick your nose, Santa, Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy, everyone loves me, everyone hates me) is still in there for immediate reference should the new belief system fail.

When something happens that we don’t know what to do about, a part of our minds is separated and given the chore of finding the proper response to THAT stimulus so we will be ready for it the next time. If no new response is discovered, that part is doomed to surface over and over again until it finally finds a better solution.

Let’s say a child was threatened and cut with a knife. Perhaps the knife becomes the symbol of the experience. Through time other knife designs, cuts, blood, etc. may be added to the original symbol. This is known as Generalization. All of these symbols now call out that little child that faced the first event.

This is a trance state! This person may be 50 years old now, but as you listen to the high pitched voice, watch the body language, this is that little child of so long ago, that still does not know what to do! Fear of spiders, snakes, they all elicit that same little child trance state with minimal resources.

As we grow up we build elaborate sub-personality structures (trance states) that we can turn on and off on a dime: The driver that handles the car while “WE” are doing something else. The worker that earns an income -electrician, plumber, salesgirl, athlete, you name it. The more we use each one the stronger and better it becomes. Mom role, Dad role, Smart Doctor or Politician role, This is not who we are, it is parts we play.

Survival needs can greatly enhance any of these, producing in some cases “Multiple Personality self protection responses” to keep one part from knowing about the others. Nothing “strange,” just exaggerated a little from the normal.

How do you forget? Don’t think of bells! The harder you try, the more you think about them!

“The Rules of the Mind.”

1. Every Thought Causes a Physical Reaction in the Body.
2. The Expected Tends to Be Realized.
3. Imagination has more Control over the Body than Knowledge does.
4. Opposing Ideas Cannot Be Held in a Belief System at One and the Same Time.
Opposing Belief Systems Extract a Price from the Body.
5. Ideas Tend to Remain until They Have Been Replaced by Another Idea.
6. Emotionally Induced Symptoms Tend to Cause Organic Change over Time.
7. Reactions to Suggestions Tend to Become Conditioned Responses.
8. The Greater the Conscious Effort, the less the Subconscious Response. (Don't think of bells!)

Add to that Pavlov's contribution:

Any Meaning can be attached to ANY stimulus.

All people, trained or not, use “hypnosis” in communicating with each other. We tend to get locked into thinking patterns. Sometimes when we are confronted with a different pattern, we take time to examine and re-evaluate, making alterations to our belief systems in the deep subconscious. Changes in beliefs cause changes in thoughts, changes in physical reactions, changes in reactions to us by those around us, more changes in beliefs, ... resulting in changes in health.

Our "conscious mind" is always switching from one brain center to another!
Sometimes we call it hypnosis. Usually we ignore it is happening.

As we write a letter, there is only one brain center trained for that.
To solve a math problem we have to transfer our awareness to another.
Switching languages requires rapidly hopping from one brain center to another.
Hurt your toe? Mind switch. Driving the car? Mind switch. Caring for a child? Yep!

When a person switches from their “normal” mental configuration into a different normal, we call it a trance state, or hypnosis - a scary word for something we all do all the time.

See "Trances People Live" by Stephen Wolinsky, Ph.D.

All of us slip in and out of various trance states all day long, every day of our lives.
We just don't pay attention to them.